Are we raising children at the feet of the culture we would love to see them adopt?
Children get it … they’ll catch the vibe … they’ll be apprenticed by watching and doing … they’ll make sense of it through all the learning opportunities along the way
The two YouTube videos below are delightful, funny and even cute. On a deeper level they both indicate a behind-the-scenes story of the culture in which each child is being raised. Enjoy!
Toddler performs New Zealand Haka War Dance
Father & daughter sing ‘You got a friend in me’
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1st 20 minutes #04 Culture: It is what it is!
The previous article talked about raising children at the feet of the culture we would love to see children adopt. Here the idea worth exploring has to do with what aspects of the culture we need to celebrate and hang on to and what aspects need to be dumped … sorry … let go, released, allowed to lapse.
It almost goes without saying that any cultural behaviours that aren’t Christian need to be challenged, addressed and changed. Practices that are oppressive, abusive, secretive, power-serving, exclusive, cliquy, prejudicial, misogynist … just reading this list it looks like the anti-list to the fruits of the Spirit. Let’s rewrite it as …
Let’s get rid of practices that don’t look and feel like the Jesus’ version of love, joy, peace, patience, goodness, kindness, gentleness, faithfulness and self control.
Let’s include other words like these that we could have been mentioned as ones we also struggle to exhibit on those occasions we would love to be living, talking and thinking more like Christ. Perhaps, for example, generousity, grace or mercy.
[blockQuote position=”center”]Culturally there are occasions where we sometimes need to change something to be more fruitful.[/blockQuote]
We can often consider different approaches to activities for the sake of children in our midst. We can adapt some practices and become more helpful in engaging children in the Word of God. All worth exploring.
Sometimes there are the rituals that fence people off from a more fruitful level of connection with God and response to God. Over the centuries the culture has been able to change away from excluding people from, say, The Eucharist. There was a time when only priests partook of the elements on behalf of the people. The people were literally ‘fenced off’ from the alter. The cultural change away from this took centuries to affect. Access to the Bible began to change because of new technologies such as the printing press. Other practices related to cultural beliefs and rituals have been challenged over the years and adaptions made. New understandings around social sciences, leadership and team dynamics have meant we function as a church differently. Women have much more access generally to clerical or organisational leadership. Culture changes.
Then there are the more deeply cultured, mundane practices like after-church cuppas, church meetings and church meals. Children aren’t well served by such events. They are often excluded from these or at least from the benefits of these. People who look forward to these events do so because there are spiritual, practical, emotional, sometimes educational and often social benefits. Advocates for other demographics such as disabled people, youth or new comers may have similar concerns that their demographic find it hard to benefit in these types of gatherings. If they don’t benefit in at least some small way, they probably won’t want to belong.
It is likely that such events have an unwritten, assumed bias towards its members. It may have approaches that serve its members rather than the outsider. Such events are worth looking at more closely. These are events that could allow for a greater flow of benefits to everyone, especially children, but are often not up for discussion because, “This is the way we have always done it!”
A particularly grouchy woman was in charge of the window where children came for their biscuits and drink. The culture of the place dictated that this window wasn’t the same window the adults came to for hot drinks. Children were handed drinks and reprimanded if they grabbed too many biscuits. What’s wrong with this picture?
In a different church, the culture of church meals generally happened with a ‘help yourself’ arrangement. The people standing around the table chatting and eating often became a barrier to others trying to get a bit of food. But this is the way we have always done it! And so what is wrong with this picture?
Education, practice, discipline, gentleness, respect, fairness and safety management are all issues needing to be addressed in bringing about change in each of the above situations. All possible! Hard work, but possible.
Here’s an example of a church meeting that wanted to include children and youth. A small church was beginning to talk about vision and future directions and started by sharing stories, affirming what it was we saw God already doing amongst us. The temptation was to press play on a DVD in the other room for children. However, taking the time to involve children in quiet conversation, drawing pictures and colouring in words meant they were able to contribute in a small way that was appropriate to their ages.
What was needed was:
- an advocate for a disenfranchised group of people,
- a dissatisfaction with an aspect of the current culture, and
- permission to give something small a go.
Not all attempts are successful and the expression ‘failing forward’ springs to mind. Pop those two words into your web search engine.
Champions, pioneers, thinkers, theologians, prophets, prayer intercessors are all required in getting new directions right. Celebrate the opportunity to review your culture. Celebrate all that is Godly, good and helpful. Ask questions about not only what you do but the way you do them in order to benefit more people
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